Friday, September 04, 2009
The System!!!
As a young mother I had to depend on the welfare system I had food stamps, cash benefits, and vouchers for child care services I even had W.I.C. , but it was also my goal to get off welfare when I was stable enough too. I always wanted to do what was best for myself and my children I never wanted to be on welfare but unfortunately I allowed myself to become an statistic by being young single mother. I went to school to better myself, and I was also bless to meet my husband who had once lived a fast life but just wanted to settle down and have a family. He his a very hard working man working 50 plus hours a week to provide for his family I see how much he works and it makes me want to reach out and help. The type of work he do takes a lot of energy, he's in charge of over 100 employees not to mention all the guest who dine at his place of employment. I know he would love to dedicate more of his time to his family which made me determined to help him, so I searched and searched all year until I got a job last Friday. The good news is I found work the bad news is, it's a pain in the ass to work and afford childcare. I have been searching all this week for a school to put my 5 year old son, he would have been going to Kindergarten this year but the cut off date is September 1st and his birthday is September 10th so he missed it by 9 days. So, he only qualifies for the pre-school program which is 3 hours long and other childcare centers won't take him when he get out from pre-school program at the local public school they want him to come to their program full-time but it's like $190 a week and with the jobs that are available now, you'll be lucky to make that much weekly. So, I been having a hard time, but I finally found a place that will take him full-time and they will go by a sliding scale fee so it shouldn't be too expensive. The reason I brought this story up is because as a woman who was on welfare and worked hard to get off, I started to notice that when you are on welfare you get everything handed to you and that's why all these woman are not motivated to get off because you loose all the resources when you are not part of "The System". It's like the government is discouraging people from living the family life, because either way you have to make huge sacrifices when you do it without "The System", you have to sacrifice the money or the family. And, this is what I mean: in order to afford the necessities you have to work a lot of hours and see your family less which can cause problems, but if you say forget it I'm spending time with my family you loose the money to support them". Then when you are trying to share the responsibility as a couple it's like they block you from the resources you need to be successful by saying"Oh you make to much", but have you noticed they never tell you how much more you make over the qualifying limit. This is just my opinion you may feel different maybe you are not having such a difficult time like I am having, either way help a sister out if you know another way to get help without hustling "The System". At one time I was thankful for "The System" now I just think they make it easy for women to keep making babies and suck up all the extra funds that can help people that really want to work and make a better situation for their families but, instead they give the funds to the women who just want to get their nails done, buy sneakers, buy their baby daddies big chains, and just sit around and do nothing! Right now I am pissed at "The System" us hard working people need help too we got goals and dreams and although we have some money we can still use a little more because you have to remember when signing up for these resources to get extra help they always go by the Gross Income Amount not the Net Income which is a few hundred dollars less which is a lot when you really don't have it!!!!!! I know there are some people out there that can relate I'm just asking you to share your situation with me and let me know how you made it work, I thought about having a friend watch him but my husband doesn't feel comfortable with her watching him which makes me feel uncomfortable, but I have to work! But, he feels it will end in drama or her being greedy and needy!!! And the people that I am able to trust is very limited so what can a sister do???????? PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!
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HUGS! Happy VGNO :)
Whenever someone gets used having something handed to them an entitlement grows. It isnt just the System either. I see kids that get everything handed to them and they grow up into adults that think they should get a raise simply because they show up to work on time.
Many areas have child care based on income but you are better off finding a friend who can watch him. Child care is so expensive. It is hard to find an affordable solution.
Good luck!
Happy VGNO!
Girl you already know I feel the same way, I can relate in so many ways too. I want to work and contribute to my household too but I cant get the voucher either. I was never on cash assistance but I had everything else. I too hate to see people out there manipulating the system and many look at that as hating because I cant do it, but I dont see it that way. Well actaully I do hate it but I am not a hater you feel me? I hate it cuz they are able to do whatever they want all day everyday, leave there kids with a babysitter, and go out and constantly party all the time, with ease. And someone like me who wants to leave my kids in a daycare so i can go to work cant get no kind of help from the government. Its like they want me to just stay home forever and then people look at me like "Wow shes always home, doesnt she work?" When they are the same mo fo's who are collecting welfare. They just keep there business on the low and act like they go to work cuz they be out all day doing god knows what. Man this is a touchy subject for me to as well cuz my man works too and he holds it down for us too, and I feel he needs some weight lifted off his shoulders, but when that will be possible I have no idea. I hope things start turning around for the better soon, or we should go to the governor (or at least write to him) and see if we can get something changed, you feel me. Sorry so long of a comment, ttyl!:)
I appreciate the comments! Is there anyone that was in this situation and worked it out?
Or do I have to just sit around and do nothing until next year!!!! This is an outrage for all the mother's who want to work and take care of their families. I was very specific about "The System" because I came from the very bottom and now I'm trying to work my way up! SOme people don't know what it is to struggle they think struggling is not being able to buy a new pair of sneakers but it's not cool when your kids can't eat. Like I said "The System" helps dead beats dads, druggies,girls who just like to have babies to keep a check coming, and repetative convicts but they can't help hard working ppl!!!
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